Chillin’ with Adam with Baker Gendron and Special Guest: Janis Joplin with a special appearance by Rhonda Williams Bustamante #metoo
We hope you enjoy this visit with Adam and Baker Gendron, his very first spiritual interpreter. Baker and Adam and I go waaaaaay back! As this is our first public channeling together, Baker asked whether she should clean up Adam’s language. Adam was quick to reply, “I wouldn’t fucking try it if I were you.” Lol!
Baker is writing a book about healing from sexual abuse. Baker’s father, who is her abuser, came in unexpectedly at the beginning of our visit. I am so very proud of Baker for choosing to leave that part in. Without further adieu, I am super excited to introduce all of you to Baker!
Janis came through excited to talk about the recent disclosure of sexual abuse in Hollywood. She wants everyone to know ‘they’ [in the spirit world] are monitoring the whole #metoo thing and that it happens in the music business too. “This has to happen,” said, Janis, “because it has to stop.”
Janis said one of the reasons she got so heavily into drugs was because of the things she had to do. Drugs were her way of dissociating from the things she did. It was like, “Okay, give me a joint or whatever so I can do these things I have to do in order to make it.”
Janis said it’s not just Harvey Weinstein. There’s going to be more people coming to light through this whole thing. It is time for that to be blown wide open because women have been suppressing the truth. Women have been hiding. Women are afraid to talk. This is going to let so many people be able to talk now. Actually, what’s going to come from this is even bigger.” At that point, my youngest sister, Rhonda, who was sexually abused as a child, came forward to cheer Janis on. Rhonda died in her sleep four years ago this December.
Rhonda shared that if she could have done anything differently, she would have gotten help. She would have talked about what was happening to her. She would have found someone to help her understand and work through that. She said a lot of times what she would do in order to cover up that pain was dance. Dancing was her release. “You don’t have to carry this burden by yourself. If there’s something going on in your life, whether it’s a sister, a mother, a grandmother, a friend, could be a male friend. It doesn’t matter. Just get help. Find somebody to talk to.”
When asked what she would say to empower someone who’s being pressured to perform sexual favors to receive success, Janis said, “Honey, you don’t have to do any of that shit. You don’t have to take any of that shit from nobody. You stand up on your own two legs. You do what you need to do. You are precious and beautiful and if you ever think you have to do that, that path is not going to take you where you want to go. It may get you there a little faster than you think, but it’s not ultimately going to take you where you want to go because you always have to deal with what you did; because that’s not your truth. Your truth is not to be going down on some man. The difference now is they will believe you. They will get it.
Ultimately, once I did that, I never felt like I could go back. I felt like I was trapped in this tunnel like this is the way it’s gonna be, and the men would tell each other.”
When asked about her greatest difficulty, Janis’s reply was surprising.
“Success. It sounds crazy; however, it was very difficult for me. Even though I could go out and do the show and do what I needed to do, I never did [enjoy success], and I think many people don’t get this, but you have no idea what you lose with that and back then there wasn’t nearly what ya’ll have got now. You’ve got iPhones and the cameras are everywhere and you can’t spit without somebody recording it, so you guys really live in a glass bubble, but even me – it’s how much people want from you. It’s how much people take from you. Even though it’s fabulous to go out on that stage and have all that applause and the love and all that, there are lots of what Baker would call ‘energy vampires.’ They suck you dry. It’s always you gotta go here and you gotta go there. You gotta do this. You gotta do that and your life is not your own anymore. Even though I wanted to sing my heart out and that’s what I loved; at the same time, it was very, very difficult for me.”
When asked what advice she would give somebody up and coming in the music industry these days to protect their privacy, Janis said, “Mostly, it’s about staying true to yourself, which includes things like, “I’m going to go on tour, but it’s going to be six cities or six months or six weeks or whatever. It’s about making the boundaries for yourself; recognizing what your limits are and what you’re willing to do and what you’re not willing to do. Just say that and do that. It’s honoring and being true to yourself. As much as possible, if you don’t want to have your whole frickin’ personal life exposed, you keep that private. If you do want to have it exposed, it’s your business. But if you’re not okay with that, there’s places that you can go live to do that. Other people have found those places. Find that perfect little nest for you and stay there. But mostly it’s having what ya’ll call boundaries. They weren’t talking about boundaries when I was out there. Now, it’s like, “No! I’m going to do this, this and this. That’s it. I’m done.” You will find the person who will give you the support that you need. As women, especially, make this stand, it will have to change.”
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